Resources From Other Authors
The following resources to help build strong relationships have been referenced in my Relationship101 articles. Purchasing them through the provided links will help support my efforts. The descriptions are extracted from the book abstracts.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Gary Chapman’s best-selling book describes the ways in which we demonstrate our love. Our language may be different from our mate’s. Learn to recognize your mate’s language and have them recognize yours. Learn to communicate fluently in each, so that both of you feel loved.
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy. Heralded by the New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success, Emotionally Focused Therapy works because it views the love relationship as an attachment bond. This idea, once controversial, is now supported by science, and has become widely popular among therapists around the world to build strong relationships.
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships Dr. Sue Johnson presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our “love sense” — our ability to develop strong long-lasting relationships.
Getting the Love You Want Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD., originated Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Imago has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships.
How to Spot a Dangerous Man by Sandra L. Brown, M.A. This savvy, straightforward book pairs real women’s stories with research and the expertise of a domestic violence counselor to help women of all ages identify Dangerous Men — before they become too involved. Brown explains women’s innate “red flag” systems, and why many women learn to ignore them. Brown then guides readers through their own personal experiences to develop a personalized “Do Not Date” list.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman, PhD. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. The book is packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute.
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal, by John Gottman, PhD. In this insightful book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous “Love Lab”: Where does love come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade? And how can we keep it alive? Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last, by John Gottman, PhD. This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage. Dr. Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. Learn how to avoid the patterns that lead to divorce and build a strong, lasting relationship.