Resources From Other Authors
The following resources on building self-esteem have been referenced in my Self-Esteem101 articles. Purchasing them through the provided links will help support my efforts. The descriptions are extracted from the book abstracts.
The Psychology of Self-Esteem: A Revolutionary Approach to Self-Understanding that Launched a New Era in Modern Psychology Nathaniel Branden’s landmark book broke the rules of conventional behavioral theory and promulgated his revolutionary ideas on the critical role that self-esteem plays in living a healthy, fulfilling life. The book offers an in-depth exploration of the need for self-esteem, the nature of that need, the conditions of fulfillment, and how self-esteem (or lack of it) affects our values, responses, and goals. Branden also debunks the misguided notion that self-esteem is a “feel-good phenomenon” and shows instead how building self-esteem, rationality, perseverance, self-responsibility, and personal integrity are all intimately related.
The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Esther Hicks. All things, wanted and unwanted, are brought to you by this most powerful law of the universe, the Law of Attraction. (that which is like unto itself is drawn). You’ve most likely heard the saying “Like attracts like,” “Birds of a feather flock together,” or “It is done unto you as you believe” (a belief is only a thought you keep thinking); and although the Law of Attraction has been alluded to by some of the greatest teachers in history, it has never before been explained in as clear and practical terms
The Science of Mind: Complete and Unabridged by Ernest Holmes & Ernest Shurtleff Holmes. Here you will find six lessons and countless affirmations that will help you unlock the power of your mind and find higher truths. You won’t find a guide to the science of the mind that is clearer and easier to use. With the power of right thinking you will find that a new, better world awaits you!
The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy, Ph.D., D.D. One of the most beloved and bestselling inspirational guides of all time, this book shows how changing your thought patterns can produce dramatic improvements in your life. Using practical, easy-to-understand techniques and real-world case studies, Dr. Joseph Murphy reveals the vast influences of the subconscious mind on all aspects of existence – money, relationships, jobs, happiness – and how you can apply and direct its power to achieve your goals and dreams.
Notes from a Friend: A Quick and Simple Guide to Taking Charge of Your Life by Anthony Robbins. This book is a concise and easy-to-understand guide to the most powerful and life-changing tools and principles from Anthony Robbins, bestselling author and an international leader in peak performance.
Self-Compassion – I Don’t Have To Feel Better Than Others To Feel Good About Myself: Learn How To See Self Esteem Through The Lens Of Self-Love and Mindfulness and Cultivate The Courage To Be You by Simeon Lindstrom
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown, PhD. In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough,” and to go to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.”
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” by Brene Brown PhD. Researcher, thought leader, and New York Times bestselling author Brené Brown offers a liberating study on the importance of our imperfections—both to our relationships and to our own sense of self.
Healing the Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw. Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.
The Inner Child
Mirror Work: 21 Days to Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. The Mirror Principle, one of Louise’s core teachings, holds that our experience of life mirrors our relationship with ourselves; unless we see ourselves as loveable, the world can be a dark and lonely place. Mirror work—looking at oneself in a mirror and repeating positive affirmations—is Louise’s powerful method for learning to love oneself and experience the world as a safe and loving place.
Forgiveness and Loving the Inner Child by Louise Hay. Visualization exercises to open the doorway to loving the self more and more, allowing one’s true self to emerge to enjoy life to the fullest.
Inner Child Work: 4 Healing Techniques to Rediscover Your Original Innocence by Mateo Sol (website)
Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles L. Whitfield M.D. This breakthrough concept of the child within—that part of us which is truly alive, energetic, creative and fulfilled—launched the inner child movement. Healing the Child Within describes how the inner child is lost to trauma and loss, and how by recovering it, we can heal the fear, confusion and unhappiness of adult life. Recent brain research, particularly on the effects of trauma on the brain of developing children, has supported Whitfield’s intuitive understanding as a psychiatrist.
A Gift to Myself: A Personal Workbook and Guide to “Healing the Child Within” by Charles L. Whitfield M.D. This is a gentle and effective workbook and guide to Healing the Child Within. It can be used with or without having already read Healing the Child Within. Using numerous experiential exercises that the reader can do at their own pace, physician and author Charles Whitfield takes us on a healing journey into our inner and outer life. Once a reader starts this book, the healing process begins — even if they rarely do any of its exercises.
The Inner Child Workbook: What to do with your past when it just won’t go away” by Cathryn L. Taylor. A step-by-step guide to reparenting the children within and healing their shame, anger, and feelings of abandonment. Using written and verbal exercises, guided imagery, journaling, drawing, mirror work, and rituals, you can change your experience of the past.
Adult Children of Alcoholics, Depressives or Narcissistic Parents
Adult Children of Alcoholics, Jane Geringer Woilitz, Ed.D. broke new ground in our understanding of what it is to be an Adult Child of an Alcoholic. She examines the movement and its inclusion of Adult Children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics.
After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma by Jane Middelton-Moz. If you grew up in an addicted family, the dysfunction that permeated every aspect of your childhood may have seemed ‘normal,’ and you may not even realize the level of affect alcohol still has on your adult life―whether or not you drink. You may have learned how to ‘survive,’ but are you ‘living’ your life? This book discusses the latest research and tackles issues such as intimacy, sibling relationships, codependency, breaking the alcoholic pattern, building a relationship with the inner child, forgiveness, and opening a window to spirituality.
Adult Children Secrets of Dysfunctional Families: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families, by John C. Friel Ph.D. and Linda D. Friel M.A As many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but did have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one? Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone. Pulling together both theory and clinical practice, John and Linda Friel provide a readable explanation of what happened to us and how we can rectify it.
Adult Children: Alcoholic / Dysfunctional Families, by ACA WSO This is the basic text for the ACA fellowship. Adult Children of Alcoholics is a recovery program for adults whose lives were affected as a result of being raised in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. It is based on the success of Alcoholics Anonymous and employs its version of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.
You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay is an internationally known leader in the self-help field. Her key message is: “If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.” The author has a great deal of experience and firsthand information to share about healing, including how she cured herself after being diagnosed with cancer.
Fathers and Daughters, Mothers and Sons
Women and Their Fathers: The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in Your Life by Victoria Secunda. This book is a groundbreaking examination of that long-ignored but crucial connection: Daddy and his daughter. It is the first to pull together the available research on “good” and “bad” fathers.
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Meg Meeker. It’s often difficult for parents to connect with their daughters–and especially so for fathers. This book reveals that a young woman’s relationship with her father is far more important than we’ve ever realized. To become a strong, confident woman, a daughter needs her father’s attention, protection, courage, and wisdom. Dr. Meeker shares the ten secrets every father needs to know in order to strengthen or rebuild bonds with his daughter and shape her life–and his own–for the better.
Dads and Daughters: How to Inspire, Understand, and Support Your Daughter When She’s Growing Up So Fast by Joe Kelly. Starting with a self-assessment quiz titled “How Am I Doing as My Daughter’s Father?” dads can immediately see what kind of role they play in their daughter’s life. The book shows fathers how to guide their daughters toward rewarding, healthy lives by discussing topics such as sex and dating, body image, alcohol and drugs, media culture and violence, money and responsibility, and the future.
Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men by Meg Meeker. Boys today face unique challenges and pressures, and the burden on mothers to guide their boys through them can feel overwhelming. This empowering book offers a road map to help mothers find the strength and confidence to raise extraordinary sons by providing encouragement, education, and practical advice.
Mother and Son: The Respect Effect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Moms yearn to learn anything that better helps them with their sons. After all, they love their boys, but many find them more difficult to parent than their girls, especially from age four and up. Love is important, but it is respect that is the key to your son’s heart. Even for young boys, the effect of respect is nothing short of astounding when applied properly.