Choose A Psychotherapist That Fits You! The How-To!

Choose the right psychotherapist

Trying to choose a psychotherapist that fits you can feel challenging, but that feeling is normal. Beginning psychotherapy, if you’ve never done that before, can also be a bit daunting. First of all, you don’t know what it’s going to be like. You don’t know if it will work for you or if you feel it’s a good match with the therapist. What if you find out you’ve been doing things the hard way or ineffectively? You are in good company if this rings a bell for you.  No worries. Here are some tips for finding the right therapist. I…

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Finding True Success: Know When to Change Your Direction

Finding true success requires recognizing when you need to change direction. Often, we are so focused on succeeding, we fear changing direction and that’s how we fail. However, it doesn’t need to go that way. If you understand what works for you and what doesn’t, you can easily avoid blaming yourself and move forward in a better direction.  If we can’t see how something can work, it’s too easy to just give up. But you don’t need to do that if you understand that going a different way is not failure. What’s most important is to recalculate what works and…

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Okay to Ask if Someone Has Been Vaccinated for Covid-19?

ask if someone has been vaccinated

The short answer is “YES”. Here’s why: Wikipedia released statistics on May 5, 2021 prior to posting this article: 577 thousand people have died from Covid-19 just in the United States. 32.5 million cases have been reported in the United States alone. 154 Million cases reported in the World. Of those Covid-19 cases world-wide, 3.22 million people died so far. So you certainly have the right to be concerned and ask someone if they have been vaccinated. However, people also have the right to decline to answer that question, at least in the United States. Here, they have the right…

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What Have You Learned About Yourself During the Covid-19 Pandemic?

COVID Life Lessons

For many people, the Covid-19 pandemic brought with it many challenges. But with those challenges comes a great opportunity to have learned about yourself. For example, how you deal with the unknown or that you didn’t have your group of friends around you? Did you build new trust in your coping abilities? Do you recognize what you could have done differently? If you live with a partner, what have you both learned about your relationship? Let’s take a look at some of the positive things that may have come out of the pandemic.   How Did You Deal With Being…

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Self-Blame is Toxic and Unhelpful…But It’s Fixable!

Self-Blame is Toxic

We all experience “self-blaming” at times. But because self-blame is toxic, it means we are devaluing ourselves and denying the humanness in us all. I am well versed in this subject because even though I am a trained and licensed psychotherapist, I will still do this from time to time. When I experience self-blame, I know this is coming from the little girl inside that didn’t know any better in growing up. I never understood that we are all human and infallible. We all make mistakes along the way in life. Here is how easily we pick up this damaging…

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Take Control of This New Year! Here’s How to Make it Work For YOU!

Take Control Of This New Year

When you truly take control of this New Year, things don’t just magically happen. They happen because you are doing those things that really work for you and make you happy. It means you put the work into your life to make positive changes. Making these changes means you value and believe in yourself. This isn’t just “Hype.” This really works! Here’s what you need to do:   Identify What Isn’t Working For You and Makes You Unhappy To make changes that truly impact your current life experiences, you need first to identify what works and what is not working for…

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Don’t Be Stuck in Your Life – Try Creating a Flow Instead

Creating A Flow

When we’re creating a flow in our life we actually use up less “heartbeats” as I call it. By this, I mean learning to panic less and instead, to create a belief in ourselves that we can figure things out.  And yes, this is possible to do, and it works! What is a Flow and What Does it Look Like? When we are creating a flow in our life we let go of unhealthy expectations that don’t work for us. We build trust in ourselves that we will get through difficult times. It’s the acceptance that we won’t always have…

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Accepting a Reality I Don’t Want – How To Make it Work For Me

Accepting Reality

Accepting our reality in a given situation doesn’t mean we are forced to “like it”. We almost always have a choice.  In life, we may be forced to accept a given situation that is out of our control. When that happens we have a choice to “accept what is” or to fight against the tide. But even if we fight, we may not get what we want in the end.   Accepting Reality Where We Have Some Control to Make a Result Work in Our Favor Sometimes, rather than being fired, we are given a choice to quit a job…

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Dealing With A COVID-19 Thanksgiving – How To Make It Work

COVID-19 Thanksgiving

This Thanksgiving holiday is like no other, at least not in most people’s generation. But you can still make this COVID-19 Thanksgiving Holiday work for you. It won’t always be this way. Eventually, we will return to our more normal life again. It’s really important to grab hold of the reality of this situation but to still find a way to make it better for you. It’s about accepting “what is” our current reality. The unknown can be scary because we don’t know what the outcome will be. We don’t know how to stop an illness we are experiencing for…

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Beware! A Lack of Healthy Boundaries is a Slippery Slope!

Ever feel people run over you? Or your feelings don’t matter to others? Most likely you are not setting healthy boundaries with those around you. Without boundaries, you are telling others that your needs don’t matter. You give people a welcome chance to walk over you. You become a human “welcome mat! But don’t blame yourself totally. They don’t teach this in school, so how are you to know? But now that you do know about it, you can take steps to fix this starting now. First, let’s identify what a lack of healthy boundaries looks like. At the very…

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