So What if You Don’t Have Someone for Valentine’s Day? Make it About YOU!

Here we go again. You don’t have someone for Valentine’s Day. Another Valentine’s Day with high expectations, or for others, sadness. Is it simply a day to avoid or to look forward to it? Fun? Expensive? Depressing? Emotionally Void of feelings? Holidays are never “a one size fits all” no matter what the industry wants you to believe. You can see Valentine’s Day as a romantic holiday, or one of dread, pressure, and overspending.  For some, it reminds them of being alone and feeling “less than” or inadequate. For others, it is a holiday to demonstrate or perhaps “show off”…

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Dare to Show Your Best Self in Your Dating Profile – Be the Real You!

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Are you tempted to “enhance” your dating profile? The better strategy is to present your best Self in dating.  Wow! What a concept! Being yourself sounds so normal, why wouldn’t you want to do this? I can speak to this personally from my past dating disasters.  What feels like a hundred years ago, and for many years, I was another person when I dated. I was quiet, not funny, more serious, not very playful, and worst of all, very unassertive. Why would I be someone other than I am? That’s easy! I wanted to be married and to have kids.…

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How Self-Esteem Affects Dating, Choice of a Mate and Our Relationship

How Self Esteem Affects Dating

Self-Esteem affects dating in a very basic way: The healthier self-esteem we have, the healthier mate we will attract. More importantly, the better we feel about ourselves, the healthier our relationship can be because we choose a mate with about the same degree of self-esteem as ours. We are more likely to choose well when we are emotionally healthy. Relationships are a lot of work, therefore, the healthier we and our mate are, the easier we can function in the relationship. This means we can grow and enjoy each other in healthy ways over time.  What Self-Esteem Looks Like in…

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What Defines Success In Life?

What Defines Success

How we define success in life determines our level of happiness and meaning. Success in life has been defined in a variety of ways. I don’t see this as being confusing. Rather, I believe the meaning of success comes from each person who ultimately defines this for themselves. Why Is Defining Success Important? To be successful you need to define what that would look like for you. People often search for purpose in life to give their existence in the world meaning. Often people will seek “success” to have meaning in their life. But who defines success in life? There…

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What is the Difference Between Self-Image and Self-Esteem?

Self-Esteem vs Self-Image

Deepak Chopra clarifies the difference between Self-Image and Self-Esteem: “Do not confuse your image with your Self — your self-image is what other people think of you, and your Self (esteem) is what you think of you.”  He has also stated that self-image is how we want others to see us. Either way, our self-esteem is more internal and our self-image is projected outwardly. Let’s take a deeper look into the difference between self-image and self-esteem and how each affects our life.   The Difference Between Self-Image and Self-Esteem Ever feel uncomfortable in a room filled with people you don’t…

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Where Does Self-Image Come From?

Self-Image vs Self-Esteem

Self-image comes from how we view ourselves and how we appear to others. But it is more than just that. How does our self-image differ from our self-esteem? First, let’s take a look at Webster’s Dictionary on the true meaning of self-image. Websters Dictionary defines “Self-Image” as “one’s conception of oneself or one’s role.”  But is self-image different than our self-esteem? And how does each occur? What does our self-image do for us? And can we improve our self-image if we don’t like it? Self-Image, Self-Esteem and True Self are not the same, but they are all related to one…

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Men – Know The Signs of Low Self-Esteem and How to Fix It

Men who show signs of low self-esteem often keep it to themselves,  believing that it’s “what men do”. They have been taught to just “suck it up” and deal with it. Healthy women are more supportive of each other. Men, you can fix this!  But don’t pity yourself, guys. Less emotionally healthy women may not be as “upfront” and transparent with their female friends if they are in a competitive group. They too can be left to deal with their own sense of low self-esteem. They don’t teach much about low self-esteem in school, if at all. So here’s what you…

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6 Ways to Find Your True Self – It’s Not Magic

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Finding your True Self means becoming aware of those around you, what makes you happy, and what does not. When you feel good about yourself and when you don’t. They don’t teach this in school, so how are you to know how to do something you have never been taught? So don’t be so hard on yourself if you feel lost or having no real identity. I will show you 6 ways that you can find your True Self, your gifts, and what makes you happy and what does not. Look around you and inside yourself and you will begin…

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How Your Self-Esteem Dramatically Affects How You Date

Self-Esteem & Dating

In dating, how you feel about yourself, your “self-esteem”, will be either projected onto others or secretly hidden from them. And this occurs whether or not you are aware of doing it. How we feel about ourselves affects the friends we attract, as well as future dating partners or mates. We tend to attract the same degree of self-esteem in others that we feel about ourselves. Therefore, if you are not liking your friends or dating prospects you need to do a check on how you feel about yourself first. Dating is uncomfortable because we want to be seen as…

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Don’t Turn On & Off Your Values. You Will Lose Your Core

Our values determine how we live our life. They are not a light switch we turn on and off at our whim. They form a screen through which we interpret the world and color our decision-making, our interests, and our goals in life. The values we choose to live by, healthy or not, often determine our direction in life, and the things we want to achieve and experience. They help identify those things in life that are most important to us, such as what is right and wrong behavior in ourselves, and those we choose to be around. Choose your…

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