Living The Life You Love

Susan reflects on how you can design your life to live the life you love. The articles below may help your current situation or you can suggest an article or get help by contacting Susan Saint-Welch HERE. She does not provide psychotherapy by email or outside California.


Design Your Perfect Life in 2019 – Create Your Own Vision Board

Tired of never fulfilling your New Year’s resolutions? Create a Vision Board to reprogram your subconscious mind and attract what you consciously want. We attract experiences that match our subconscious beliefs. We need to experience the world in a way that makes sense to our subconscious beliefs about how the world works. If we expect failure or disappointment, we will usually experience failure or disappointment. If we expect success or happiness, we will usually achieve it. If we strongly believe that we will not get a good job, we probably won’t.   Our beliefs are very strong and powerful. If…

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8 Signs to Know If An Independent Woman Will Make You Happy

Living with an emotionally healthy independent woman can be challenging, but you should not consider her a challenge to see if you are “man enough”. The independent woman has goals and aspirations that are very similar to yours and the challenge comes from deciding on a fair distribution of whose goals will take priority. She doesn’t need a man for protection, financial security or status. Although she is quite capable of living alone but prefers to share her life with her mate. She wants a romantic partner she can feel close to, with whom she can share her home life.…

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Signs of An Emotionally Insecure Relationship With A Lover, Friend or Parent

In an insecure relationship the more attached we are to our “person” the more vulnerable we feel with them. When one partner pulls away the other partner most often will feel emotionally abandoned, disconnected and insecure of the bond, especially if this occurs often. Secure relationships are about having a secure emotional attachment with the other person. Our emotional attachments begin with our parents or guardian, evolve to our closest friends, and eventually lead to a romantic relationship with a partner. When we have a secure emotional attachment we feel safe, cared for, and that we can rely on “our…

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9 Secrets To A Successful Relationship After A Long Term Single And Independent Lifestyle

Maybe you were focused on your career and time went by. Maybe you have been divorced or widowed for a while. Maybe you just never met the “right one”. But one day you find yourself involved with another person and your lives are beginning to blend together. And suddenly you are scared. How do you succeed at this process when you’ve always lived your life according to your own style? Even the most independent people can find ways to share life, love, joy, laughter, and fun with the right person. You will work together to find the win-win in a…

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Is He The Right Guy? 11 Questions Before Casual Becomes Long-Term.

Navigating through the ups and downs of finding and keeping the Right Guy is like trying to get someplace you don’t know well, in the dark and with no sign posts for guidance. Mostly we learn by trial and error, or what we hear from our friends who are also in the dark. Or we learn about relationships from our parents who are just as clueless as we are. But rest assured that there are concepts and skills that you can learn and practice which will help you recognize the right guy and sustain that healthy relationship. The following questions…

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Personalized Interpretation of Dreams – You Are Your Best Expert!

We all dream as we sleep. Some of our dreams help us work out the more important issues or events in our life that cause us feelings of stress, worry, joy, or fear that we do not recognize during the day. Sometimes we remember the dreams and sometimes we don’t. But the feelings during the dream are always present whether we remember them or not. You can use these feelings to understand how your dreams try to help you deal with your life issues. These feelings may lead to a more valid interpretation than any generalized book of dream interpretation…

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What Do My Dreams Mean? Dream Interpretation Made Simple.

We all dream, whether we are aware of them or not – whether we remember them or not. Dreams help our mind deal with experiences that usually have occurred within the last couple of days. When we let our guard down in our sleep, the subconscious mind helps us process our experiences to understand them and to understand ourselves. Why This Is Important Dreams connect the subconscious mind and the conscious mind to help us understand ourselves more fully. The more we understand how we think and interpret our experiences the more aware we become of what works for us…

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Surviving Valentine’s Day Pressure In a Relationship, Or Single

Valentines Day means many different things to people. For some it signifies the love they feel for their mate. Others (whether they have a mate or not) see Valentines Day as a sham by the retail industry to milk that day for all its worth. Some people avoid it like the plague, even to the point of not going to work that day. Some romantics have high expectations of their mate, even expecting them to top last year’s thoughtfulness. I hear this more from women than men. And from men I will hear the pressure they silently feel to meet…

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You Must See The Whole Person. You Can’t Just Pick The Values You Like

Wouldn’t it be a perfect relationship world if we could love someone without seeing the “the bad and the ugly” in them and just focus on their good values? Well, some people do this everyday, but unfortunately we live with all the parts, and are affected by all the parts. No one is perfect and we live with their imperfections, just as we live with our own. The important factor is knowing the difference between the values we can truly live with and what we cannot. Why We Can’t Pick and Choose What to See in a Person Have you…

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Make Your Decisions Out Of Desire- Not Fear Or Avoidance

We make hundreds of decisions a day, of which most are unconscious. What to eat, what to wear, when to leave for work, which lane to drive in, which calls we take and which calls we let go to voicemail. Even where we focus our eyes. Making Conscious Decisions We make some decisions more consciously. When we need to end a relationship. Who to date. Even more importantly, who to marry. Whether or not to have children is a very difficult decision for some people. Most of these decisions come from desire. Making Decisions From A Fear of a Negative…

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