Living The Life You Love

Susan reflects on how you can design your life to live the life you love. The articles below may help your current situation or you can suggest an article or get help by contacting Susan Saint-Welch HERE. She does not provide psychotherapy by email or outside California.


Choose A Psychotherapist That Fits You! The How-To!

Choose the right psychotherapist

Trying to choose a psychotherapist that fits you can feel challenging, but that feeling is normal. Beginning psychotherapy, if you’ve never done that before, can also be a bit daunting. First of all, you don’t know what it’s going to be like. You don’t know if it will work for you or if you feel it’s a good match with the therapist. What if you find out you’ve been doing things the hard way or ineffectively? You are in good company if this rings a bell for you.  No worries. Here are some tips for finding the right therapist. I…

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Finding True Success: Know When to Change Your Direction

Finding true success requires recognizing when you need to change direction. Often, we are so focused on succeeding, we fear changing direction and that’s how we fail. However, it doesn’t need to go that way. If you understand what works for you and what doesn’t, you can easily avoid blaming yourself and move forward in a better direction.  If we can’t see how something can work, it’s too easy to just give up. But you don’t need to do that if you understand that going a different way is not failure. What’s most important is to recalculate what works and…

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Take Control of This New Year! Here’s How to Make it Work For YOU!

Take Control Of This New Year

When you truly take control of this New Year, things don’t just magically happen. They happen because you are doing those things that really work for you and make you happy. It means you put the work into your life to make positive changes. Making these changes means you value and believe in yourself. This isn’t just “Hype.” This really works! Here’s what you need to do:   Identify What Isn’t Working For You and Makes You Unhappy To make changes that truly impact your current life experiences, you need first to identify what works and what is not working for…

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Don’t Be Stuck in Your Life – Try Creating a Flow Instead

Creating A Flow

When we’re creating a flow in our life we actually use up less “heartbeats” as I call it. By this, I mean learning to panic less and instead, to create a belief in ourselves that we can figure things out.  And yes, this is possible to do, and it works! What is a Flow and What Does it Look Like? When we are creating a flow in our life we let go of unhealthy expectations that don’t work for us. We build trust in ourselves that we will get through difficult times. It’s the acceptance that we won’t always have…

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Accepting a Reality I Don’t Want – How To Make it Work For Me

Accepting Reality

Accepting our reality in a given situation doesn’t mean we are forced to “like it”. We almost always have a choice.  In life, we may be forced to accept a given situation that is out of our control. When that happens we have a choice to “accept what is” or to fight against the tide. But even if we fight, we may not get what we want in the end.   Accepting Reality Where We Have Some Control to Make a Result Work in Our Favor Sometimes, rather than being fired, we are given a choice to quit a job…

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Beware! A Lack of Healthy Boundaries is a Slippery Slope!

Ever feel people run over you? Or your feelings don’t matter to others? Most likely you are not setting healthy boundaries with those around you. Without boundaries, you are telling others that your needs don’t matter. You give people a welcome chance to walk over you. You become a human “welcome mat! But don’t blame yourself totally. They don’t teach this in school, so how are you to know? But now that you do know about it, you can take steps to fix this starting now. First, let’s identify what a lack of healthy boundaries looks like. At the very…

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Unsure of The Real You? Unlock Your True Identity!

Unlocking your true identity means valuing yourself, standing up for what you believe, and asking for what you want. It’s not about being selfish. Furthermore, it’s about truly knowing yourself and demonstrating this in your life and in your decision-making… Living a healthy life that truly fits who you are, and makes you happy. However, as I often say in my articles, these things are not taught in school. So how are we to know how important this concept is, and what happens when we don’t value ourselves? Or even how we get there? First, let’s take a look at…

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Why Can’t I Move Forward in Life?

Move Forward In Life

You are not alone if you find yourself asking, “Why Can’t I move forward in life?” The bad news is that your failure to move forward is probably due to experiences in your past. The good news is that this does not define you. Changes can occur that will allow you to move forward. You just need to recognize what you need to change and be brave enough to do the work. There are so many reasons that could cause your struggle to move forward in life. Messages you received as a child can be unknowingly carried into adulthood, damaging…

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Being an Empath is Not Easy: Are You an Empath?

EmpathNotEasy

Being an empath is not easy. I know. I am one. What is an empath? It’s someone sensitive to the energy and feelings of other people. The energy you pick up may be positive, or it may be unhealthy and draining.  And so much more. Being an empath means you have to take care of yourself and manage your energy. Let’s take a closer look at what it means to be an empath, and navigate in this world of ours.    What is an Empath? You Might be an Empath if…. According to Judith Orloff, M.D., an empath is someone…

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Design Your Perfect Life in 2020 – Create Your Own Vision Board

Vision Board

Are you tired of never fulfilling your New Year’s resolutions? Create a Vision Board to reprogram your subconscious mind and attract what you consciously want. People attract experiences that match our subconscious beliefs. We need to experience the world in a way that makes sense to our subconscious beliefs about how the world works. If we expect failure or disappointment, we will usually experience failure or disappointment.  Therefore, when we expect success or happiness, we will usually achieve it. If we firmly believe that we will not get a good job, we probably won’t.   Our beliefs are very strong…

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