Improving Self Image

A healthy self-image is fluid. Over the course of a lifetime, it can have a ripple effect on our relationships, the decisions we make and the life we live.
The articles below may help your current situation or you can suggest an article or get help by contacting Susan Saint-Welch HERE. She does not provide psychotherapy by email or outside California.

How Our Self-Esteem Is A Magnet

Did you know that we tend to attract the same level of self-esteem in others as we have in ourselves? If you look at your circle of friends don’t they seem to have about the same level of confidence or doubts as you? It can be in different areas though. Some people are more confident in their career. But when it comes to romantic relationships their self-esteem is not as healthy. Romantic relationships are the most vulnerable relationship because our heart does what it does. We choose our friends but we really don’t seem to choose how we feel about…

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How Our Self-Esteem Is Easily Distorted As A Child

The Self-Esteem of children and teens is very vulnerable to distorted perceptions of value to parents, friends and family. Negative impressions are not always accurate. They tend to stay with us throughout our life, even when our experiences along the way do not mesh with the early memories. Most often we don’t realize those negative experiences are not really a part of who we are. They are early memories that a child or teen was not able to accurately interpret. Therefore it becomes a part of our picture early on of who we are and how others will see us.…

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Self Worth Fact # 1: The majority of people do not have an accurate view of their Self Worth when they look in the mirror. Discussion: One reason for this inaccuracy is that the majority of us are more critical of ourselves deep down inside than our dearest and closest friends are of us. Those friends who see the “good, the bad and the ugly’ and believe the good is so good that for them, it outweighs the “ugly” or imperfect part of us. They are the ones with the more accurate view of us. And in turn, they are likely…

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