Susan Saint-Welch writes articles helping people learn tools to navigate crises arising from daily life. The articles fall into these main categories:

Couples In Conflict      •      Family Drama And Crisis      •       Coping With Difficult Times

Living The Life You Love      •      Improving Self Image

You can check out the articles in each category by clicking the links above, or you can read the latest articles below.

Vision Board

Design Your Perfect Life in 2020 – Create Your Own Vision Board

Are you tired of never fulfilling your New Year’s resolutions? Create a Vision Board to reprogram your subconscious mind and attract what you consciously want ...
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Coping Skills For Teens

11 Essential Coping Skills for Teens

Being a teenager is not always easy. But it gets easier if you learn the essential coping skills for teens. Even though you may fear ...
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Communication Tips for Family Drama

6 Communication Tips For When Your Family Is In Crisis So You Stay Away From Unnecessary Drama

Family crises often lead to family drama. Effective communication is vital, both for dealing with the situation but also working together as a family unit ...
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Success Not About Luck

13 Reasons Why Success In Life Is Not About Luck

Successful people already know that success in life is not about luck, and they know this because of how they achieved success. They had a ...
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Coping with Family Drama

How To Cope With Family Drama Without Falling Apart

Believe it or not, you most often you really can cope with family drama without falling apart. And even more than that, you can turn ...
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7 Reasons Why Coping Skills And Resilience Go Hand In Hand

That’s easy to explain: Coping skills and resilience go hand in hand because the more coping skills you learn and utilize, the more resilient you ...
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What Defines Success

What Defines Success In Life?

How we define success in life determines our level of happiness and meaning. Success in life has been defined in a variety of ways. I ...
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Self-Esteem vs Self-Image

What is the Difference Between Self-Image and Self-Esteem?

Deepak Chopra clarifies the difference between Self-Image and Self-Esteem: “Do not confuse your image with your Self — your self-image is what other people think ...
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Find the Rt Mate

11 Signs to Find The Right Mate For a Successful Relationship

Finding the right mate for a successful relationship requires knowing and valuing yourself first, and what you want. We tend to attract the same level ...
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Reasons for Couples Counseling

10 Reasons Why Couples Counseling is a Good Idea

People often cringe when they consider couple’s counseling. Some people are afraid it will make things worse. Others may fear it will cause a divorce ...
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Self-Image vs Self-Esteem

Where Does Self-Image Come From?

Self-image comes from how we view ourselves and how we appear to others. But it is more than just that. How does our self-image differ ...
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When Is The Best Time For Couples Counseling

When Is Couples Counseling A Good Idea?

Great question. In my experience, couples counseling is always a good idea in committed relationships, when you hit a milestone that changes the dynamics of ...
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Men – Know The Signs of Low Self-Esteem and How to Fix It

Men who show signs of low self-esteem often keep it to themselves,  believing that it’s “what men do”. They have been taught to just “suck ...
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friends together

6 Ways to Find Your True Self – It’s Not Magic

Finding your True Self means becoming aware of those around you, what makes you happy, and what does not. When you feel good about yourself ...
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7 Vital Reasons to Understand What He is Really Saying: Context

Relationships can be tough. Building a “context” of what your mate is really saying significantly increases emotional intimacy and closeness between the two of you ...
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How To Turn Failure Into Success – The Easy Way

Defining “failure” is an individual choice we all have. It can define us or we learn from it. Webster’s Dictionary defines “failure” as “ failing ...
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Xmas Bulldog

How To Avoid Holiday Burnout, FOMO, Ghosting, and Family Dysfunction

How will you avoid Holiday Burnout this year? Some people travel to a faraway island. Others fear missing out on “the best” party of the ...
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Bad Things Innocent People

When Bad Things Happen to Innocent People

At least two different heinous crimes of violence involving a group of innocent people have recently been reported in the news: one was in a ...
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Self-Esteem & Dating

How Your Self-Esteem Dramatically Affects How You Date

In dating, how you feel about yourself, your “self-esteem”, will be either projected onto others or secretly hidden from them. And this occurs whether or ...
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Pushy People: How To Avoid Getting Pushed Into A Corner

Pushy People seem to push you into a corner to get what they want. They are relentless and have no regard for your feelings until ...
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People With These 14 Personality Traits Are Most Likely To Have A Secure Attachment Style

If you want to feel a secure attachment in your relationship pick someone with these qualities! People with a secure attachment style approach relationships differently ...
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Do You Still Feel Like a Child in Your Parents’ Eyes? Do This!

Do your parents treat you like a child, even though you feel like an adult and have the bank account and responsibilities to prove it? ...
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8 Signs to Know If An Independent Woman Will Make You Happy

Living with an emotionally healthy independent woman can be challenging, but you should not consider her a challenge to see if you are “man enough” ...
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Precious Gifts

Two Precious Gifts From Father To Daughter: Not What You Think!

A father is the gateway to his daughter’s future relationships with boys and eventually men or women. What are these precious gifts from father to ...
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Signs of An Emotionally Insecure Relationship With A Lover, Friend or Parent

In an insecure relationship the more attached we are to our “person” the more vulnerable we feel with them. When one partner pulls away the ...
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Teen Discipline Driving You Crazy? This Proven Method Really Works!

Can’t teach your teen discipline? Do they refuse to perform the simplest chores? Do they consistently fail to do their homework? Think they will NEVER ...
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Relationship Deal Breakers

Relationship Deal Breakers – Know Your Warning Signs & Red Flags

When counseling my clients at my LA office I use a system of Red, Orange and Yellow Flags to help them recognize varying degrees of ...
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9 Secrets To A Successful Relationship After A Long Term Single And Independent Lifestyle

Maybe you were focused on your career and time went by. Maybe you have been divorced or widowed for a while. Maybe you just never ...
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Good Guy Bad Person

Is Your Good Guy Sometimes A Bad Person? Can You Live With That?

Have you ever heard the phrases “turning a blind eye” or “seeing through rose colored glasses?” This means that someone chooses to see only what ...
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6 Questions to Ask When Someone You Love Has Depression

You've been watching your loved one struggle with serious depression for a while now. What do you do? What do you say? You're not a psychologist ...
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Why Some People Can Look You Straight In The Face And Tell You Lies

People who lie want to avoid responsibility for something negative or they value their feelings more than yours. They will justify their lies with various ...
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Is He The Right Guy? 11 Questions Before Casual Becomes Long-Term.

Navigating through the ups and downs of finding and keeping the Right Guy is like trying to get someplace you don’t know well, in the ...
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Dreams Interpretation

Personalized Interpretation of Dreams – You Are Your Best Expert!

We all dream as we sleep. Some of our dreams help us work out the more important issues or events in our life that cause ...
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The Secret Ingredient To Creating Passion In Your Relationship

Nice dinner, soft lighting, candles and tasty cuisine. Why isn’t this enough to ignite passion? Because of one missing ingredient: Connection. What is connection? And ...
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What Do My Dreams Mean? Dream Interpretation Made Simple.

We all dream, whether we are aware of them or not - whether we remember them or not. Dreams help our mind deal with experiences ...
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Stop Arguing

7 Ways to Stop Arguing And Reconnect Your Romantic Relationship

How do you stop arguing when it seems like the argument will never be resolved? When we keep replaying the same argument over and over ...
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How Do I Know If I Have A Secure Attachment In My Relationship?

When we are in a relationship comprising a secure attachment we feel safe, secure, cared for, and that we can rely on “our person”. In ...
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Surviving Valentine’s Day Pressure In a Relationship, Or Single

Valentines Day means many different things to people. For some it signifies the love they feel for their mate. Others (whether they have a mate ...
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The Difference Between Clinical Depression And Just Feeling Depressed

Often clients will ask me “Sometimes I feel a lack of energy or I just want to be alone. Can this be depression?” Clinical Depression ...
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See Whole Person

You Must See The Whole Person. You Can’t Just Pick The Values You Like

Wouldn’t it be a perfect relationship world if we could love someone without seeing the “the bad and the ugly” in them and just focus ...
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Make Your Decisions Out Of Desire- Not Fear Or Avoidance

We make hundreds of decisions a day, of which most are unconscious. What to eat, what to wear, when to leave for work, which lane ...
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Improving Relationships

4 Scenarios for an Unhealthy Relationship – What If No Improvement or Change?

One day you wake up and finally decide that your unhealthy relationship is not working and it is not going to improve on its own ...
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Don’t Turn On & Off Your Values. You Will Lose Your Core

Our values determine how we live our life. They are not a light switch we turn on and off at our whim. They form a ...
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Improving Relationships

Improve Your Relationship in 2018. What Will YOU Do To Improve It?

Another year has come and gone. Are your relationships the same they were at the end of last year? How is that working for you? ...
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Not So Merry Christmas

A Not So Merry Christmas? What Happened to My Great Plans?

I’m in danger of having a Not So Merry Christmas this year. I traditionally have various parts of my family join me as they can ...
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Emotional Hole

Find And Fill That Emotional Hole in Your Heart

In “Havana”, Camila Cabello sings of longing for her home after she lets a guy take her away to East Atlanta. This is a great ...
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Don’t Call Me Scrooge! I Just “Celebrate” Differently.

Have you been called “Scrooge” before? Can't enjoy the holidays? There's nothing wrong with you. You just "celebrate" differently. Some people enjoy the holidays. They ...
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Understand Your Mate

Understand Your Mate – Fight Less and Love More! Build a context.

When you more fully understand how your mate ticks, you build a context of that person. This understanding allows you to use that context during ...
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Breaking the Cycle Part 2

Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships – Part 2

In this third and final article in the series, we cover how children who have survived growing up with unhealthy parenting relationships can change their ...
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Life Giving Lemons

Life Giving You Lemons? Best Lemonade Recipes Ever!

When you feel life is giving you lemons you have a choice to make: you can accept your lemons or you can make lemonade. This ...
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Breaking the Cycle

Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships – Part 1

The previous article in this series listed the negative effects that can result in children raised by one or more unhealthy parents. These children are ...
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Dating and Self-Esteem: How One Affects the Other

Bad dating experiences affect our Self-Esteem, but this is the end of the cycle – not where it begins. Our Self-Esteem very much affects how ...
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Dealing With Grief

Dealing With Grief: A Survival Guide

Grief is a life event that we all face at one time or another. Some of us have had much more than our share of ...
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Adult Children of Alcoholics, Depressives or Narcissistic Parents – Part 1

Adult Children who grew up with unhealthy parenting dynamics often feel “broken” – that there is something wrong or missing in them, and they do ...
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Surviving the Upcoming Holidays: Gulp! The “How To”

Wow! The holidays are here again! For some, this period is filled with time pressures, money issues, over committing and dealing with FAMILY DYNAMICS and ...
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How Much “Me Time” Do You Need? How Does This Fit with Date Time and Family Time?

Parents often feel guilty having me time or even date night we time. They feel they don't spend enough time with their kids as it is ...
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The Inner Child: Whose Eyes Do You See Through?

Many believe we have left our childhood behind. But, that little boy or little girl inside us (our Inner Child) recorded early childhood experiences that ...
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Single Lifestyle Most of Your Life. How Do You Make Room For a Mate?

For whatever reason – career, lifestyle choices or past breakup – you are living a single lifestyle. You don't have to make room for someone ...
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The Bullseye Exercise: Make Decisions Based Upon the Person’s Value to You

Too often we feel pressure to do something because someone is “counting on us”, but we really don't want to do it. The Bullseye Exercise ...
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Relationship Pillar #4: TIME reveals a mate’s true nature

TIME, Relationship Pillar #4, is often the most challenging one. TIME refers to consistently practicing each of the three preceding pillars for at least 6 ...
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Getting Out of the “Perfect Picture” Trap in Disagreements/Negotiations

A negotiation will fail if one or both participants insist on their “Perfect Picture” of the solution. This forms a trap or a stalemate in ...
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Stand in Your Own Truth: Don’t Give Away Your Core

Too many times we allow someone else to overshadow what we believe or how we truly feel. We give our Core away and allow others ...
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Relationship Pillar #3: Concepts & Skills To Navigate Situations

Concepts and skills are vital to successfully navigating any relationship. People don't know what they don't know, so they often interpret situations blindly. Concepts help ...
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Our Comfort Zone: How It Affects Our Life, Relationships, Employment

What is a Comfort Zone? We all have our own Comfort Zone. It is that warm feeling we get when our experiences conform to familiar ...
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The Mother’s Precious Gift to the Son: His Real Worth To A Woman

What Is The Gift? Just as the Father has a special gift to give his Daughter as she grows, so does the Mother with her ...
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Relationship Pillar #2: Eyes Open and Willing to See the Truth

If we close our eyes it doesn't mean the situation “magically” changes or doesn't exist. We need to have our eyes open – Open and ...
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Identify Unhealthy Behavioral Themes in You and Others

Have you ever wondered why there is a theme to how things turn out for you in certain situations? It is likely that you are ...
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Self-Esteem: The Father’s Precious Gift to his Daughter

A father is the gateway to his daughter's future relationships with boys and eventually men or women. What is this precious gift that a father ...
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Relationship Pillar #1: No Agenda – No Belief It MUST Be A Certain Way

What is an Agenda? An agenda is a belief that we keep because it serves a purpose. We believe it “must be” this way for ...
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Anchor Page: Challenging Negative Beliefs – Anchoring New Accurate Beliefs

What is an Anchor Page? We all have experienced our negative beliefs running away with us in difficult times. What if there was a way ...
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Heal Negative Childhood Experiences as an Adult

Negative childhood experiences stay in our memory bank in our brain. They can affect our brain function, emotions, sleep function, relationships, immune system, and even ...
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The Four Pillars Of Dating And Relationships

We have all heard the horror stories from all of the dates gone so wrong. We have most likely experienced some of those horror stories ...
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Mind-Shift: Ideas That Catapult Us Forward In Our Thinking & Growth

What is a mind-shift? A mind-shift occurs when our thinking moves from one perspective or viewpoint to another. For example, look at the picture in ...
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Attract What You Want: Create an Image or Vision Board

We attract experiences that match our subconscious beliefs. If we expect failure or disappointment, we will usually realize failure or disappointment. If we expect success ...
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Create a Must Have List to Recognize Mr/Ms Right

The last blog discussed how you have to first know yourself well before you can recognize the “right” person for you in a romantic relationship ...
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Coping with Difficult Times – Sink or Swim

Life happens. Coping with it makes all of the difference between sinking into a dark place or staying afloat and swimming. How we make it through ...
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The ABC’s of Improving Your Self-Esteem NOW

As children, we rely on others to define our worth by giving us clues about how they experience us. But as an adult, you have ...
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Dating 101: Know Yourself First To Recognize Mr/Ms Right

If you don't know yourself, how can you know who you should be dating? Many relationships go wrong because the people are not a match ...
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Do Your Decisions Come From Fear or Avoidance or Desire?

Where our decisions come from emotionally makes a big difference in terms of how we get to where we want to go. For example, someone ...
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How Our Self-Esteem Is A Magnet

Did you know that we tend to attract the same level of self-esteem in others as we have in ourselves? If you look at your ...
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Relationship Checklist – Part 2

In Part 2 of the Relationship Checklist, we continue discussing the factors that contribute to a secure and lasting romantic relationship. These same principles can ...
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“Corner People” and How To Get Out Of Their Corner

Definition of “CORNER PEOPLE” : Those individuals that seem to push you into a corner to get what they want. They are relentless and have no regard ...
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How Our Self-Esteem Is Easily Distorted As A Child

The Self-Esteem of children and teens is very vulnerable to distorted perceptions of value to parents, friends and family. Negative impressions are not always accurate ...
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Relationship Checklist for Couples – Part I

Relationships are like a Greenhouse: You have especially chosen your flowers and plants because they are appealing to you and they give you joy. But ...
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Your Core is Your New Best Friend

What is a Core and why would it be your new best friend? By Core I mean the gut feeling we all have inside us ...
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Self Worth Fact # 1: The majority of people do not have an accurate view of their Self Worth when they look in the mirror ...
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What goes into making a relationship successful? Relationships are a lot of work and that will never change. It is about wanting to have a ...
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Life skills usually are not taught in school. So how can we learn how to cope? Or how to grieve? Or how to find our ...
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