Susan Saint-Welch LMFT has counseled couples and individuals for many years on issues such as dating, marriage, family drama, coping with difficult times, improving self-image and living the life you love. She provides psychotherapy for clients in California and Dating, Couples and Life Coaching for clients outside California through secure video conferencing. She has published numerous articles regarding these issues on her website, on and on

7 Negative Effects of Poor Self-Esteem

Negative Effects of Poor Self-esteem

There is a reason you may struggle in life with the negative effects of poor self-esteem. If you look at the people in your life you will begin to notice some have healthier relationships than others. This is not by chance but absolutely relates to the degree of healthy self-esteem in both you and them. The good news is that it’s not your fault and it is fixable. The “not-so-good-news” is that it takes a lot of work, and most likely also the help of a professional who is trained in this area.  For starters, let ‘s take a look…

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What Did You Learn About Yourself from COVID-19?

Child Studying

You have a perfect opportunity at your feet. Whenever life circumstances present themselves, you often learn about yourself and how you operate in different situations. COVID-19 is a great example. As our life goes on, we often take for granted our routine, friends, work, and often even our romantic relationships. It becomes automatic, and we don’t think about it much. That’s normal. But when there is a change in our circumstances, such as COVID-19, things that were “normal” for us can easily change. Sometimes the change involves loss. However, change also comes an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and…

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How To Trust Someone Again After They’ve Betrayed You & Broken Your Heart

Have you been betrayed by someone you truly loved? Betrayal can be one of the most hurtful things to experience in any kind of relationship. It’ breaks trust. Once that’s broken, how do you get your trust back again? Is it even possible? How do you know trying again in that relationship is even worth it, or that it can’t happen again in the future? Click below for an article I wrote for YourTango about this very issue. How To Trust Someone Again After They’ve Betrayed You & Broken Your Heart   These other articles on my website discuss similar topics.…

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8 Personality Traits Are The Least Likely To Break Your Heart

Trustworthy Personality Traits

Relationships are vulnerable any way you look at it. But there are 8 personality traits that are more likely to lead to a healthy relationship. These traits also help you build trust in your mate and lessen the chance of heart break down the road. When we’re able to feel confident in our ability to trust “our person,” it lessens the extent of that vulnerability, making us feel more like partners in the world. Personally, I tend to trust someone until they’ve given me a reason not to, but there are definitely some specific personality traits I look for as…

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Why Can’t I Move Forward in Life?

Move Forward In Life

You are not alone if you find yourself asking, “Why Can’t I move forward in life?” The bad news is that your failure to move forward is probably due to experiences in your past. The good news is that this does not define you. Changes can occur that will allow you to move forward. You just need to recognize what you need to change and be brave enough to do the work. There are so many reasons that could cause your struggle to move forward in life. Messages you received as a child can be unknowingly carried into adulthood, damaging…

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Being an Empath is Not Easy: Are You an Empath?


Being an empath is not easy. I know. I am one. What is an empath? It’s someone sensitive to the energy and feelings of other people. The energy you pick up may be positive, or it may be unhealthy and draining.  And so much more. Being an empath means you have to take care of yourself and manage your energy. Let’s take a closer look at what it means to be an empath, and navigate in this world of ours.    What is an Empath? You Might be an Empath if…. According to Judith Orloff, M.D., an empath is someone…

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Mother’s Day is Not the Same for Everyone: The Good, The Bad and the Sad

Mothers Day - Good Bad Sad

Mother’s Day is consistently the second Sunday in May. However, Mother’s Day is not always the same for everyone. For some, it means a happy and festive family gathering. For others, it may signify haunting childhood memories. And still, for others, it may be filled with sadness, loss, and regret. There is no “one size fits all” or “correct ” way to experience Mother’s Day each year. However, you would never know this from the retail stores’ point of view. For them, it’s advertising “finding the perfect gift for Mom,” or flooding the stores with displays of candy and flowers,…

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Creating a Healthy Balance in Your Life and Dealing With the Unknown

Creating A Healthy Balance

Creating a healthy balance in your life is essential for good health, especially in difficult times. There are all kinds of crises… loss of employment, dealing with an illness of yours or a family member, financial struggles, loss of a relationship, etc. Having useful resources available, and using them is significant at those times, like now. By resources, I mean links to access helpful assistance or articles on coping and finding appropriate links for your particular needs.  In this article, I am covering various online sites and activities to do while dealing with the current crisis. Also, I will be…

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How to Overcome Regrets and Move On With Your Life

Overcome Regrets

Everyone wants to overcome regrets. What matters most is if you learn from them and move on in your life. Then, your regrets have meaning in constructive ways, rather than haunting you over time.    How to Overcome Regrets and Resentments in Life (for good) Many people hang on to their regrets because they don’t know how to let go of them. How can you just “stop” thinking about regretful times of the past?  At the beginning of letting go, those haunting thoughts may come up more than you like, but that is normal.  As you get to “acceptance” of…

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Dealing With Loss Of All Kinds – Learning To Cope

Dealing with loss and grief can present an opportunity to learn new coping methods, which will prepare us for a more significant loss in the future. However, not all loss is the same. Some kinds of losses can be disappointing, but we move on fairly easily. Other losses provide a challenge in terms of learning new coping methods.  And unfortunately, some losses knock us to the ground.  There are losses in life that remain in our gut every time we think of them, such as the death of a mate or even worse, the loss of a child. Even with…

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