Thinking of Dating Someone New During Covid-19? The How-To:

Ahh, this is a crazy time for everyone right now.  If you’re thinking of dating someone new during Covid-19, there are some practical tips to know before the first date.  If you read the literature on Covid-19, you will see that it can be tricky to maintain safe dating.

However, you don’t have to give up dating right now if you do it safely! Let’s see how that would work.

Let’s begin by talking about what could happen if you don’t date in safe ways these days.

Dating Someone New During Covid-19

What Do Safe Dating Practices look Like These Days?
  • According to many experts, if you are just beginning to date someone new have the first date virtually. This means, for example, online or on the phone. After all, you don’t want to be even more nervous or uncomfortable on the first date.
  • So, for the first date, doing it online or on the phone may make that first step a bit more comfortable.
  • Simone Scully from Healthline states that many experts believe it works better if you do the first date virtually. That way you can ask some of the tougher questions from home.
  • Sophie St.Thomas, a relationship and sex writer, believes that having the “Covid-19 talk” is important when meeting someone new, ideally before an in-person date. For example, if they are at work, are coworkers wearing masks and using other health precautions?
  • Another writer, Lisa Bonos states that virtual dates are still a healthy thing some people choose to do.
  • Courtney Rubin in the New York Times wrote that EverlyWell (a company http://EverlyWellthat makes at-home health tests)  found that “nearly one in four Americans ages 20 to 31 broke quarantine to have sexual contact with someone in April when stay-at-home orders were at their peak”.
  • Stephanie Wijkstrom, counselor and founder of Counseling and Wellness Center of Pittsburgh, believes in chatting for about one month on video before seeing each other in person. She believes this gives each person information on body language, trustworthiness, how the person makes you feel, and especially if there is a real connection.

What The Bumble App Offers for Dating Practices and Information

If you haven’t seen it yet, check out the variety of information on Bumble about dating someone new during Covide-19 and how to navigate safely.  Here are some excerpts from the Bumble articles:
  1. Dr. Ravina Kullar in an article entitled “The Covid Conversation” discusses sex and intimacy during a pandemic. Dr. Kullar suggests asking your potential date basically what they’ve been doing for the past 14 days. For example, being with friends, going to restaurants, etc. She also believes in asking if they live with other people.
  2. Dr. Kullar also recommends talking about these issues at the first or second contact at the latest.
  3. In addition, the doctor further recommends learning about your match’s attitude towards social distancing, wearing masks, etc. before meeting up.
  4. Also on Bumble, Dr. Sadie Allison recommends listening to how comfortable you feel about what you are doing. For example, are you making your decisions based upon anxiety or a sense of urgency?
  5. Currently, Bumble has an added feature for video chat and voice calls that allows the member to not have to give out their phone number until they are comfortable doing so.

What Bumble Statistics Showed Regarding Dating Practices of Their Readers

  1. 84% of their polled readers stated that having a Covid conversation with a prospective date helped them to know their match better.
  2. 85% of their readers said they felt safer after having that chat.
  3. 55% of Bumbler daters reported they are taking longer to move a match offline.

How Dating Apps Have Responded to Covid-19

In another article from The Conversation, Christopher Dietzel, David Myles, and Stephanie Duguay discuss the Covid Crisis and the public and community programs available. Their belief is that dating advice on apps should not replace public and community-based programs that offer free and reliable support.  These programs address risk, safety, loneliness, etc during trying times, such as the Pandemic.

Final Words

As you can see, there is a lot of information available to the public and especially those who are currently dating someone new during Covid-19. Follow what your gut tells you is best and healthy for you. Don’t give in to being coerced by someone. Be true to yourself. Be safe.

Additional Links:

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2020/09/11/911991077/coronavirus-faqs-what-are-the-new-dating-rules-and-what-about-hooking-up

https://www.healthline.com/health/relationships/first-date-tips#if-youre-anxious

 

About Susan Saint-Welch

Susan Saint-Welch LMFT has counseled couples and individuals for many years on issues such as dating, marriage, family drama, coping with difficult times, improving self-image and living the life you love. She provides psychotherapy for clients in California and Dating, Couples and Life Coaching for clients outside California through secure video conferencing. She has published numerous articles regarding these issues on her website, on YourTango.com and on MSN.com.

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