Creating a Healthy Balance in Your Life and Dealing With the Unknown

Creating A Healthy BalanceCreating a healthy balance in your life is essential for good health, especially in difficult times. There are all kinds of crises… loss of employment, dealing with an illness of yours or a family member, financial struggles, loss of a relationship, etc. Having useful resources available, and using them is significant at those times, like now.

By resources, I mean links to access helpful assistance or articles on coping and finding appropriate links for your particular needs. 

In this article, I am covering various online sites and activities to do while dealing with the current crisis. Also, I will be listing multiple sources for assistance.


Dealing With the Unknown

In past articles, I’ve covered various examples of “the unknown” as well as ways of coping with them. Here are a few of my related article links:

Dealing With Losses of All Kinds – Learning to Cope

How to Deal With the Unknown

Dealing With the Unknown in Life – How to Cope With Difficult Times

During trying times, it’s essential to get plenty of sleep and rest and to stay connected with friends and family. Also, it’s important to eat and drink in a healthy manner. 

Remember, using alcohol to cope doesn’t work well. It can form a dependency and easily can make someone feel even more “not in control” of their actions.circumstances. It doesn’t really help in dealing with something that bothers you because it can cause increased anxiety the next day, which can make things even worse.

Dealing with the unknown is genuinely challenging sometimes. Especially if you don’t know that you will be “OK” at the end of that time, this is normal to feel. It helps to have a plan whenever possible. Sometimes, however, an issue can be unclear, and several possible outcomes could result. So how would you know if you could deal with the end result if you don’t know what it will be?


One Creative Way to Manage the “Unknown”

I use this technique with clients and myself whenever the “unknown” surfaces. Ask yourself what the “very worst-case scenario” might be. Next, ask yourself what you would do if it happened? Finally, ask what that would be like for you if it did occur. Would you survive that situation and be “OK”? What would be your options?

When you have the answers to these questions, and you have genuinely used the “worst-case” scenario, will you be OK? If the answer is “yes,” then anything else will be “OK,” and you will survive it. And, the “worst-case rarely occurs statistically.

It’s the “unknown” outcome not being fully defined for us that causes the most stress. How do we know we will be OK if we don’t know the final result? By thinking of the worst-case and determining you will survive, you are lowering the fear of the “unknown” because you realize you will make it through even the most challenging situation.


Keeping a Healthy Perspective

Living through the Covid-19 Epidemic can unravel many people. It’s vital to try to keep a valid and healthy perspective, especially when dealing with a crisis. It’s a good idea to check out reliable sources that are more likely to have an accurate and helpful view of events and ways of coping.

For example, dealing with the current Covid-19 crisis involves listings of helpful and reliable sources to manage critical times. At the end of this article, I’ve listed a few of the useful resources available to you.


Creating a Healthy Balance in Your Life

Having a healthy balance in your life is always essential for good health, both physically, but also mentally. And for some people, a spiritual balance is also important. Look at how you spend your time. Are you doing the things you love doing? Or are you focusing on those pieces of your life you feel you must do? 

Without balancing those things you “must do” with the things that nourish you in a healthy way, you will be out of balance with your health, mind, and for some, your spirit. Your sleep may often be affected by the worries and pressures you carry around at times.

It’s essential to practice a healthy balance between what you “must do” like meeting deadlines, etc., and what nourishes you at your core. They are not the same things and don’t have the same effect on you.


Some Good Apps to Manage Anxiety I Have Found Helpful  Very calming and soft voices with soothing music, and some are calming music alone. I use this to sleep more soundly.   I have found this works well for me. Tapping sounds odd at first, but this method taps into those parts of your body that connect to your brain. Therefore, anxiety symptoms often decrease significantly. At first, to me, this sounded a bit strange, but it really works and has been around for a very long time.


Breathing Exercise to Lower Anxiety

 I use breathing exercises often with my clients. Anxiety climbs when we override the symptoms. It’s easier to manage when you catch it early.

Here’s how to do it, though there are many variations. You have to find what is more comfortable for you.

Managing your breathing: Anxiety increases with faster and shorter breaths. You can slow this down by slowing down your breathing and taking longer breaths.

  • For example, I have my clients breathe to a count of 10 or whatever number is comfortable for them. Remember, it’s about taking slower and longer breaths to slow down your heavier breathing.
  • Then, hold it (if this is comfortable) for a count of 1 or 2 seconds and then slowly let the air out. If holding your breath for any time is uncomfortable, just breathe more slowly and don’t hold it in. It works the same either way.
  • If for any reason, you begin to feel a bit light-headed, it likely means you took in too much air, so just breathe it out normally. You can wait a couple of minutes and try it again but with a shorter intake of breath this time.


Using Visualization to Calm Anxiety or Depressed Mood

For those who can visualize things in their mind, this is a great exercise to lower anxiety and lift the spirit or mood. First, pick a scene that is enjoyable or calming for you. It can be about scenery, people you enjoy being around, or doing something that nourishes or calms you emotionally.

As you create your scene in your mind, notice how this makes you feel. Does it relax you? Does it give you joy? If you find this works well for you, try and remember the scene so you can quickly bring it back to your mind when you need to. 


Being Productive Can Create a Healthy Balance and Lower Anxiety

For some people, being productive makes them feel better or more in control of their feelings or situation. Sometimes it also lightens their mood. I have some clients who feel better when they straighten and clean their house. 

Some people feel “lighter” when they rearrange or update their financial plan. It makes them feel they are more I control of their life.

Whatever gives you a feeling of more control, especially in difficult times, can be very helpful as long as it is healthy. If it works well for you, it often becomes one’s “go-to” way of getting in a better emotional place.


Helpful Resource Links:

Center for Disease Control:

Government Benefits During Covid-19 

 Comprehensive Guide

Reducing anxiety

Managing anxiety and fear:

Improving communication with your partner during COVID-19


Final Thoughts

Some events in life are more trying and emotionally charged than others. It’s essential to be aware of what calms or soothes you during stressful times. If you can’t manage your mood and anxiety easily, it may be helpful to seek professional assistance from a psychotherapist.

About Susan Saint-Welch

Susan Saint-Welch LMFT has counseled couples and individuals for many years on issues such as dating, marriage, family drama, coping with difficult times, improving self-image and living the life you love. She provides psychotherapy for clients in California and Dating, Couples and Life Coaching for clients outside California through secure video conferencing. She has published numerous articles regarding these issues on her website, on and on

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